Dear Unmarried Single Ladies

Dear unmarried single ladies, it is not cute to fill your heart with weird ideas about men .If you have friends or belong in a friendship in which you and other girls just bad mouth young men instead of actually going out with them or befriending them, you are already on your way to not getting married or into a relationship.
There are ladies who date fine young men and there are ladies who trash-talk all the young men. The trash talkers want to date the fine young men but since nobody is picking them, they act like all poor people do when they trash-talk the rich or wealthy. They want it, instead of working on themselves to get it, they say it is evil. They say all sorts of nasty things about it, worse of all, they find people who share their opinion about it and by so doing, they remain poor for life! Choose not to fall into this category.
If you have a female friend who would say things like “Guys don’t wash their hands when they use the restroom, so don’t shake hands with them” or “Guys don’t brush their teeth, so don’t kiss them” Or “Guys can never be faithful, so don’t date them” Run away from such a person. Her mind and worldview are warped and if you keep being friends with such, your mind will become corrupt too and you will lose all forms of attraction and attractiveness to men day by day, you will notice no man is looking your way. Before you know it, you will be begging to sleep with anybody just to feel like a woman. It is a lonely life for those who don’t pay attention to these subtle things. All the flirting they ought to have done in their twenties will now be done in desperation in their thirties. They were the ones who said men can’t be faithful in their twenties and as a result didn’t date but in their thirties, they become the side chicks and one-night standers just to keep the sheets warm and the heart from spinning out of control.

Parents should keep their daughters away from friends who don’t date but like to trash-talk guys or just sit in the house gossiping about other people’s relationships (sometimes showing fake concern for the ladies in such relationships claiming it will never last). It is either you are in the game or not. A spectator in the dating pool never gets to land a partner. One of the reasons many ladies end up alone is because of the choice of female friends they had in their twenties. If the friends were all sexually wild, your daughter would be so too and would most likely end up too messed up to think herself worthy of a marriage or to think marriage is a good thing, she will say “Who will marry me after all my body counts?” Her friends will be like her and even if she meets anyone they will kill the prospect with all their fear projections. If she is the type that trash-talks all guys, she won’t sleep with anyone and nobody will sleep with her. What you want is your daughter mixing with the marriageable, desiring to marry, dating, relationship-oriented ladies around her. Those ones end up being married because their minds are tuned to the right frequency. If you have a daughter who says “I am focusing on my books in secondary school, tell her that the university is both for books and for learning life.

Don’t encourage the focus on book talks into 300 Level and don’t ignore. While you shouldn’t pester or meddle, you should actively work to ensure your daughter has a work-life balance otherwise you will be wheeling her in an emotional wheelchair for a long time. There are great guys out there, who are well-raised and from decent backgrounds. Your daughter has a right to marry one of them but she must want to and she must keep away from certain kinds of ladies.

Finally, most ladies in their twenties don’t know men at all, even if they have started having sex. Girls can’t learn anything about boys from their fellow girls. It’s all myths, lies, and made-up stuff. If your daughter desires to satisfy her curiosity about the male gender, she should date a male and learn firsthand from him what men are like.
-GSW-