Safety or  Hunger

Many wives are usually puzzled that their husbands would refuse to eat the food they prepared whenever they had a quarrel.

Many pastors preach about this. Some would insult the man for being childish. What they forget is the instinct for self-preservation that every man has.

One of the easiest ways to kill a person is through poison. An angry or unhappy woman cooking for you is a risk. Not only are you not sure what her mood was like while she was making the food, especially if you have seriously offended her. You also cannot predict what voice was in her head while she was serving the meal.

So, most men instinctively avoid the meals prepared by their unhappy or angry wives while she is unhappy with them. They just don't feel it is safe to eat a meal prepared by the "enemy" at that time. The use of the word "enemy" must be taken in context.

Moods dictate a lot when it comes to the feminine gender. Relationships are all about how we make each other feel. If a man makes his wife happy all the time, he will joyfully eat her food all the time because he knows she made the meal and served it from a happy place. If a man makes his wife unhappy all the time, he will fearfully avoid her food while she is still in a combative mood.

When ladies complain about this, I tell them to make peace with their husbands as quickly as possible. When it comes to survival, safety is way ahead of hunger.

A tiger once chased a goat into a closed room through a very small window. As soon as it landed in the room and realized it could not jump out through the same window because there was no space for it to run in order to take off, it sat in the room with the goat, it didn't eat it. Hunger disappeared immediately as he discovered he was in danger. Thank God, the owner of the house came on time and released it into the wild the following day.

I have also seen a lion that chased a wild boar into a well. The lion lay down beside the boar. There was no escape for both of them, and it immediately lost its appetite because it had lost its freedom.

Most women won't sit down to a meal in the house of a mother-in-law they regard as a witch or hateful towards them. I have seen many women throw the food someone they don't trust in the trash because they cannot say for certain what was in the food.

I am not making excuses for some men who are very petulant in their behavior and have made not eating their wife's food a form of punishment or manipulative tool to get her to do their will. Some men go as far as engaging in silent treatment and keeping malice for many months in the name of forcing their partner to bend the knee. This is not right.

If a man feels safe, he will eat the meal his wife prepared. If he is not eating, it means he is not feeling safe, and he doesn't want to find out after eating the meal that the road to the tummy is also the road to the world beyond.

So, you know what to do when your husband turns his back on his meal, and now you know how to rectify this. Put the food in front of him, take a huge chunk of it in his presence, and put it in your mouth.

Swallow it with relish and say, "It is delicious, I cooked it just for you, and I want you to feel safe eating it."

If you are a good and loving wife, he will eat. If you are a wicked wife who is capable of killing yourself and him without a second thought, or if he suspects you have an antidote that can prevent the poison from hurting you, he will most likely dodge the meal.

A man knows his woman.

In most cases, a man will eat when he feels safe, and he will flee from food when he does not.

-GSW-