Choose to love
Context is important to make informed
decisions, without context we can take
any issue, judge it by the appearance
and we will land at a very
A born again polygamist is not going
to hell, neither will
a born again divorcee or a born
again serial monogamist.
The terms of our salvation were
clearly spelled out in John 3:16,
the price for our salvation was paid
by only one entity and we are
required to pay nothing else apart
from believing in the son of God and
confessing him as our Lord and savior.
This agreement was brokered by God
himself from the very beginning.
It had nothing to do with religion
or “Christianity”. It was based on
relationships. Abraham believed and it
was counted to him as righteousness.
If we will all be frank, as
believers who came to know the
way of salvation in Christ Jesus in
the New Testament.
Abraham didn’t worship God the way
He worshiped according to the dictates
of his time and season but the one
thing he had in common with us
is a glorious relationship with God.
Most people who claim to be Christians
today are religious in their walk and
relationship with God.
This is very sad because God didn’t
call us to religion. We were called
into a relationship.
Our relationships have a general
guideline but it also has a personal
intimacy to it that differs from
one believer to the other.
The Father had a relationship with
the prodigal son.
He also had a relationship with
the prodigal son’s brother.
The two sons didn’t follow the
same life pattern or ideology, to be
frank they were both very different
in their disposition towards their
father yet the Father loved both of
Some of us may even argue
that the father loved the prodigal
son more. (This isn’t true but it
seems so on the surface).
In our walk with God, we must
be very personal and keep out
Of the business of other believers
lest we end up poking our noses where
it doesn’t belong.
I remember the first time I read
that Elijah slept in the same house
for many months with a widow…
If Elijah is of this generation,
he will be vilified on social media
by religious folks. What sort of
a man of God sleeps in the
same house with a single woman
who is very much flesh and blood
like him. We will blog about him
for traffic and use this misconduct
against him even though God told
him personally to leave the brook
Cherith and stay with the widow
throughout the duration
of the famine.
What about Hosea, and his relationship
with Gomer. God said he was
using this prophet’s life as an
illustration to the children of
God was playing Hosea and Gomer,
the prostitute was being depicted as
a representation of the nation of
Did God consider the people’s opinion
of the man Hosea in all these?
Yes he did, he was banking
On the people calling him names
and mocking him. When they do
that, they justify God and condemn
themselves but they wouldn’t realize
this at that moment.
Remember when Peter asked Jesus what
fate awaits John (after they had
a conversation about death and
persecution). Jesus said “What is that
to you? You follow me”
See? It is a personal call.
It is a personal walk.
It is always a one-on-one affair,
there is no group salvation and
there is no collective relationship.
That we attend the same church
means we all agree and believe
in the doctrine of that church but
that does not mean we are
better than those whose doctrines
do not agree with us as
long as they do not believe in
anything or anyone other than Jesus
and they have a relationship with
the Holy Spirit.
I know a Pastor once, he is
late now. Before he joined the
Pentecostal movement he was in the
white garment church and he had
Then he joined the Pentecostals and
their doctrine stated that had
to give up his last two wives
or he wouldn’t be able to minister
as a pastor (note that they
didn’t tell him he will go to
hell for marrying more than one wife)
He wouldn’t be a church leader just
as Paul wrote to Timothy when he
was counseling him on the criteria
by which a church leader should be
chosen and also following the
criteria for choosing the deacons
in the book of Acts.
This pastor did what
was popularly referred to as restitution
not because God said he should
but because It was what the
doctrine the Pentecostals demanded and
everybody saw him as fulfilling the
demands of doctrine (not the demands
of making heaven).
Another pastor got divorced and chose
Many people said “the Bible said he
should remain as he was”. But his ex-wife
had remarried in America with four children,
there was no room for reconciliation.
This man remarried and
as a result he had to leave the
Pentecostal church he was attending
and started another one free of that
doctrine. He is still a Man of God,
called by the Lord Jesus and
his ministry still thrives.
Another Pastor got divorced and refused
to remarry stating that in his
opinion he is still married even
though his wife sued for divorce and
left him based on irreconcilable
differences. This pastor also thrives
and the Lord is manifesting His glory
in His ministry every day.
There is another pastor who married
many wives, became a Christian, and
refused to do that restitution thing.
The man became a king in his
community and has led many to
Christ by his exemplary Christian
conduct and life.
I write this to say
boldly that none of us has a
right to imagine that He or She
knows the mind of God and plan
of God regarding the walk of others.
You can speak in the light of
your doctrine but not according to
the plan of God for the individual.
A Nigerian pastor went to the
USA for his Ph.D. in theology and
was attached to a church.
After service the Reverend in charge
Of the church he was attached to
invited him to his office and he
saw the good reverend smoking a
cigarette. He said he almost fainted
with shock. It was a cultural thing
not about heaven Or hell.
A pastor went to Germany for a
crusade, the people that came were
drinking beer like water but they
don’t take coffee, then he went
to Romania and the people were
drinking coffee but not touching
He concluded that Jesus was right
when he said what we eat doesn’t
make us sinners but what comes
out of us. So what is coming
out of you? Judgment, anger, pain,
jealousy, strife, woe, or Peace,
understanding, harmony, and love?
It is what comes out of you
that tells us who lives within
you. Our walk is personal and
none of us was given the right
to Judge the other, we were
given the commandment to love
one another, not judge one another!
Let this be your watchword!
I choose to love