From Buying To Loving

There is something I have wanted to write about for a few weeks

It is especially directed towards men and women who are wealthy and found themselves divorced or widowed in their late thirties to early forties

Finding love for such folks is usually tricky because it is difficult to distinguish between women thronging you for your money or for true love

The mistake they then make is "buying" a wife because that seems to be the safest option.

They find a beautiful lady or a young hardworking man, and they use their wealth to lure him or her away from their dreams, lifestyle, and possibly a relationship into their lives

Of course, they promise such heaven and earth, and they move mountains for him or her so that they become convinced that the care is real and the comfort is not a mirage.

Trips abroad, shopping sprees, financial support for her parents and relatives, expensive gifts, and all the goodies that money can buy is showered on this beautiful person

Soon, such moves in, and becomes the wife/husband and parent of your children.

Consequently the man/woman relaxes and begin to make irreparable mistakes

They send their beautiful spouse to schools abroad for her master's or MBA or Business School, then they put loads of money in his/her account or open a business

He/She begins to amass money without any need to spend it on

They do not notice this because the money is small change to them

Time flies past, and suddenly, such has the kind of money that he or she knows could provide for him or her for a lifetime.

Suddenly, such now possesses enough of the thing you "bought" him or her with

The dynamics of the marriage change drastically

Your authority gets questioned without any regard for any form of consequences

He or She is still young and rich, and by now you are in your late forties and fifties

The next thing you know, he or she is giving you ultimatums and dragging the custody or decisions over the children with you

The teeth you sharpened have sunk into your jugular

By this time, it is usually too late to put the cookies back into the jar

The marriage fails or you both become estranged

This is because you stopped paying attention

After buying a spouse, the next investment in them must not be material

It must be emotional

You have captured the prize, but it must be trained to love you and become loyal to you and not to the lifestyle you offer

If money is everything you have to offer in a marriage,

You will easily lose the marriage when your partner gets his or her own money

Please note this

-GSW-