He had a weakness for certain types of girls
It wasn't as if he didn't like other types
But for the cream chicks with a certain bust size
Especially when she has a slight dimple and hazel eyes
He would do anything!
He didn't know how he came to love such ladies
He couldn't even tell why
They made his knees wobble simply by smiling at him
They were a "certain of type" of weakness
As he grew older, he understood that the weakness
could be very costly
There was a lady that fitted into that profile
He wanted so desperately to date her
But she had become aware of her beauty
and perfected the art of saying neither Yes or NO
When he came too close, she gives him the cold shoulder
When he withdraws, she gives him a warm smile
The lady strung him along for two years
She practically turned him into an ATM machine
All he wanted was her commitment
He wanted an exclusive relationship
But she kept "thinking about it"
She kept asking him to buy her this and that!
They went shopping, dating and clubbing
But she never agreed to a relationship
After two years, she said she was a free spirit
She didn't want to be caged
By then he was calculating many things
His wasted time, energy, money and pride
It was much later that he learnt that she was dating
another guy and only stringing him along
How she was able to do so without leaving him
any clue for two years was a wonder
He told himself he didn't need such a weakness
He swore to keep away from such ladies!
He studied Petroleum Engineering but got his
first job with an airline
The job was good and the pay was wonderful
Ladies poured in!
He shared an apartment with two other guys
at the time
They brought in many ladies and the ladies
brought their friends
He didn't even have to go looking
He hardly slept for a night without a girl beside him
When he was twenty-seven, his mother called
him and told him to get a wife
She had visited him several times and seen the
kind of lifestyle he was living
His mother took him to a church
The pastor prayed for him
The pastor told him he would meet his wife
within the following thirty days
All he had to do was pay attention
There was a particular lady who came to their house
with other girls
But she would sit in the sitting room and watch
None of the guys paid her much attention
because she wasn't that type of girl
She was the younger sister to one of the ladies
one of his roommates was dating
He went to a university campus close to their
house to hunt for a lady to sleep with one evening
He drove down in one of his flashy cars
and parked in front of the girls' hostel
This lady was returning to the hostel from
She saw him and greeted him very respectfully
She asked him what he was doing at their hostel
He told her he came "hunting"
She said "Okay"
She went to her room, dropped her folder, changed
her clothes and returned to him
He didn't know how to tell her "She was not
the fish he intended to catch"
She just jumped into the car and said "Let us go"
She was in 400 Level at the time
He changed his plans immediately
He took her to a pepper soup joint
They ate and talked
He discovered she was nothing like the lady
he had assumed he knew
She was funny, witty, mischievous and lively
He had a very swell time with her
And that was it!
They started seeing each other thrice a week
He still slept with other girls
But she was the type of guy every guy like him
have in common
A girl you cannot place in a particular box
She wasn't a friend, she wasn't a girlfriend,
He didn't ask her out, but she was important
to him in an odd way
Sometimes she would come around while he was with
She would sit in the sitting room as usual
when he was done she wouldn't say a word
about what she saw, she would smile and say
"I hope you will open your eyes and see,
I sincerely hope so"
She graduated and was posted to another state for
her one year long NYSC programme
He didn't even keep in touch
They were friends but not "into your space"
kind of friends
SHe finished her NYSC and returned home
It was not the same girl that left that returned
She had changed
She acted more like someone who knew she
had to happen to life
rather than wait for life to happen to her
He really liked the new version of her
He proposed and they became an item!
The wedding was a grand occasion
She was from a prominent family
Her Father was judge and her mother a lawyer
His own family was also prominent in the
He loved her with all his heart
She got pregnant the very first month they
He still slept around but he had learnt from
those whose footsteps he was following that
sleeping around as a married man must be with
a certain level of decorum!
She suspected him sometimes, but she never caught
him red handed!
Sometimes she would smell a strange perfume or
see a strange piece of hair on his clothes
He would always have a good excuse
She really wanted him to stop
But it had become a habit
Sometimes he would promise her without admitting
that he was cheating on her that he would do better
And he would try for a week or two
but by the third week, he would return
to his old routine
He would return home late and insist he was just
hanging out with friends!
One day their association in church organized
They invited a prominent preacher from a particular
He was the choir leader and she was in the
They both gave their lives to Christ and
became Born Again Christians
It was the best day of her life
Her husband wept and mourned for his sins
It was a genuine repentance
Everybody saw the transformation in his life
They stayed in their church for a few months
But the new life that had couldn't settle
for the dreary boring services they were having
They quit the church and joined the church of the
pastor that preached with the vivid power
of the Holy Spirit that transformed their
Her husband got filled with the Holy Spirit
He started speaking in tongues and doing
the things of the spirit
In no time he was a Sunday school teacher
His zeal and thirst for the milk of the word
was second to none
Within four years of joining the church
They were sent off to start a parish
She became Parish Pastor's wife
They had four children, two boys and two girls
Her husband's ministry prospered
His parish attracted upwardly mobile youths
and dedicated believers
He became totally dedicated to God and his family
It was the happiest season of her life
Until the cream ladies returned to his life
in the name of counselling!
She didn't suspect him at first because he had
truly changed and the change was evident and
enduring for over five years
Then she started seeing the old pattern reviving
Incoherent stories and little inconsistencies
he would say he was in church when he was not!!
He would vanish and resurface at will like Philip
Eventually, she saw a lady in his office one morning
and she knew as soon as she saw her that her
husband had resumed his old lifestyle!
When they got home that evening she confronted him
He denied it, but she knew!
She knew he would make a mistake and she would
catch him red-handed
And it happened!
He left his phone unlocked one evening and she
saw his conversation with the lady
She screen grabbed everything!
But then she checked the phone further and saw his
conversation with other cream ladies in
Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt, and Kaduna
States he often travels to due to the nature
of his job!
She didn't know what to do!
Should she report him to the church authority'
and have him stripped of his pastoral career,
and as a consequence probably lose her home and
Should she report him to other Pastors around
him who could escalate the matter?
Should she go for broke and leave him?
Should she pretend she didn't see anything and
continue to live a lie?
Their children are in secondary school and
she didn't know what to do!
She prayed and fasted!
Eventually, she called a senior Pastor and
told him everything with evidence
The senior pastor called him and counselled him
The evidence was more than compelling
He had no option but to pay attention
As soon as he left the senior Pastor's house
The senior pastor called her and informed her
that the matter had been settled
She was so happy
When he got home he didn't say a word about it
The next morning he left the house very early
She knew he was angry because she took the
evidence from his phone and exposed him
She made his lunch and drove down to his office
When she got to his office
His secretary was on maternal leave
She walked straight to his door and opened it
She got the shock of her life
The cream lady was lying on her back on his
desk, he legs draped across his shoulders
And he was humping away with delight!
She didn't know when she dropped the lunch
He turned, looked at her, hissed and continued
what he was doing
She could barely make it home in one piece
He stopped coming home from that day
He resigned his position in the church
and started staying by himself in serviced
apartments very close to his office
She thought he was angry and it would blow over
but it didn't!
His children go to the service apartment
to see him
He lived by himself and refused to listen to
He claimed, she was using the church as a tool of
manipulation to control him! So he had to set
himself free from that tool by leaving the church!
Friends and relatives tried to wade into the
matter but he refused to return home!
PS: It's been three lonely years
She is fifty-two years old
She wanted to move on but to what?
She had her businesses, money and children but
she loved her husband
She wanted him to forgive her
Many told her she did the right thing
But it didn't feel right at all
He was having a blast while she was suffering
In defiance, She wanted to get another man,
someone to move on with and start afresh
But all she saw were leeches who wanted to have
access to her money and sleep with her
No man was willing to commit to a lifelong
relationship with her
If her husband would have her back
she was willing to have him back and tolerate
But he simply doesn't want anything to do
with her anymore