Why Take Just The Word Of A Rape Accuser?

There is a young man in Scotland, a Nigerian

A fellow Nigerian student accused him of rape because she wanted him to date her, and he told her that he had his own babe in Nigeria.

The school paused all his academic activities pending investigations

The police got involved, investigated, and cleared him

The school says he cannot resume unless the accuser drops the case or they conclude their investigation.

He has been in a limbo

He has prayed and fasted

Goes for church meetings after church meetings

Registered to be baptised in church, hoping that God would help touch the heart of his accuser

On the day of his baptism, his accuser came to church to take videos of him being dipped into the water and herself in the crowd

She posted it online with the tag "He can't dip, but now he is being dipped."

Someone saw the video and forwarded it to the school authority

They summoned her and asked her what she meant

She said she wrote jargon due to mental distress.

I know many young men in England who have kept far away from ladies because they are scared of being accused of rape

I recently came up with the idea that the boys should be going about with a pre-consent form in their pocket, perhaps it will give them some level of confidence to engage the ladies in a conversation

This consent is not about sex but about conversation and making friends.

See a lady, walk up to her, and when you start talking, tell her your father insisted that there must be consent to interact and that she must sign it.

While not denying that there are some sick men who rape women, it is not all men.

It is not even the majority of the men

(Research shows it is 2.4% of men and 1.8% of women have done this (out of a sample).)

Hiding behind mental issues to ruin people's lives is not acceptable.

This was how Goodness Adeosun's story also caught fire, even though it was a lie from the pit of hell?

(Goodness Adeosun, a medical student, accused Dr. Olugbenga Olugbenga of raping her in 2019 at UCH Ibadan. Forensic evidence was cited, but he claimed consent. A hospital panel found no rape but a professional breach. The case went viral with cover-up claims. In 2023, a UK tribunal acquitted him, finding inconsistencies in her account and ruling the encounter consensual.)

It is happening all over and it has got to stop

Another false rape allegation occurred in Lagos last December

A young man from the USA was carefully targeted and catfished by a Nigerian lady with the aim of extorting money from him.

She met with him and slept in the same room with him for three days

He wanted to sleep with her, but always stopped whenever she said stop

On Day four, he told her she needed to leave as he wanted to go and see his parents

She said she felt he was trying to stylishly send her away because she didn't let him have sex with her

He said he couldn't continue to spend a ridiculous amount of money on a hotel room when his parents house was in Magodo.

The only reason he chose to book the hotel was that they had plans, right from when he was in New York, for them to meet.

She said he was the one who was handling her like a woman

"You are too sensitive, and it almost felt to me like you have commitment issues.

You keep holding back as if you are expecting something bad to happen, or maybe you just want me to resist so that you can turn your back and sleep."

He didn't change his mind; he told her to leave

She packed her bag and said she might still need to sleep in a hotel that night because she would have a meeting at UNILAG till evening.

He gave her transport fare and some money to book a hotel close to Yaba

(They had been on the Island for three days)

She left

Later in the day, she called him to ask where he was

He said he was still at the hotel

She said she had forgotten her handbag in one of the wardrobes

She went all the way back to the island and convinced him not to check out that day

They ate and took a stroll

That night, he didn't touch her at all

When it was 5 AM, she began to touch him

They had sex

When they were done, she went to the bathroom to shower and change her clothes

When she came out of the bathroom, she said, "Do you know that you just committed rape? I want you to know the magnitude of what you have done so that when I begin to deal with you, it will sink in that I am not being wicked.

The young man said he didn't know when his eyes began to spin, and his voice began to fade

Rape?

He asked her what she meant

She said, "You cannot say you didn't hear me when I said you should stop at one point, but you didn't stop."

It was a nightmare

She picked up her bags and left the room

He said fear gripped his heart

His career, his future, everything blurred in his mind

How could she say stop when they had "Doggy" and he didn't hear or comply?

She could have just lain down instead of remaining on her knees, and that would be the end of it.

He started crying, afraid that the lady had gone to report to the police

It was at that moment that I called him on the phone

He explained everything that had happened as it happened

I asked him if the lady took pictures of anything, and he said No

I asked if she showered

He said yes

"If you raped her, why would she wash out the evidence by herself?"

Just then, he got a message

The lady's boyfriend demanded money or they would go to the police

Money for flushing her out at a hospital and compensation for rape

They demanded 2 million naira

When he told me, I said he should check out of the hotel and come to me

I read all the messages and the exchange he has been having with the lady, right from when he was still in America

I replied to the lady with his phone

"We have called our lawyers and gotten the police involved. We will be waiting for you at the Ikeja Police Station by 2 pm today. We have the evidence of all the financial transactions between the two of you, and i will

like to know what you were selling that amounted to almost two million naira, which this man has been sending to you since you started dating him in June.”

The lady blocked him immediately

The other number, which claimed to be the number of her boyfriend, also blocked him

That was how that story died out.

Men should be careful out there!

So many unnecessary lies to support an elaborately planned lie in the name of victimhood.

"Almost all the women I know in my life have been sexually assaulted or raped" Is a lie

"Because of fear of rape and sexual assault, I go out with my daughter carrying pepper spray." Another lie

While not denying the fact that a lot of mentally deranged men do unthinkable things to women, and a lot of mentally deranged women do unthinkable things

Only a few people on both sides had been victims of either rape or sexual assault

Women get away with sexual crime the most because they usually pick weak targets, like young boys, disabled boys, and because the ones they do to strong male adults go unreported, or when reported, the men are usually not believed or mocked for complaining that a woman touched them inappropriately

Women are easily believed, even when there is no evidence whatsoever of the crime apart from their tears and some made-up gibberish.

So many men's destinies have been ruined by bitter ladies, and they didn't pay for their crime against the men they wrongfully accused because they are quick to claim that they are mentally unwell

The Bible has Numbers 30 for a reason

Women and Vows

3 “If a woman vows a vow to the Lord and binds herself by a pledge, while within her father's house in her youth, 4 and her father hears of her vow and of her pledge by which she has bound herself and says nothing to her, then all her vows shall stand, and every pledge by which she has bound herself shall stand.

5 But if her father opposes her on the day that he hears of it, no vow of hers, no pledge by which she has bound herself shall stand. And the Lord will forgive her, because her father opposed her.

6 “If she marries a husband, while under her vows or any thoughtless utterance of her lips by which she has bound herself, 7 and her husband hears of it and says nothing to her on the day that he hears, then her vows shall stand, and her pledges by which she has bound herself shall stand.

8 But if, on the day that her husband comes to hear of it, he opposes her, then he makes void the vow that was on her, and the thoughtless utterance of her lips by which she bound herself. And the Lord will forgive her.

9 (But any vow of a widow or of a divorced woman, anything by which she has bound herself, shall stand against her.)

10 And if she vowed in her husband's house or bound herself by a pledge with an oath,

11 and her husband heard of it and said nothing to her and did not oppose her, then all her vows shall stand, and every pledge by which she bound herself shall stand.

12 But if her husband makes them null and void on the day that he hears them, then whatever proceeds out of her lips concerning her vows or concerning her pledge of herself shall not stand. Her husband has made them void, and the Lord will forgive her.

13 Any vow and any binding oath to afflict herself,[a] her husband may establish,[b] or her husband may make void.

14 But if her husband says nothing to her from day to day, then he establishes all her vows or all her pledges that are upon her. He has established them, because he said nothing to her on the day that he heard of them.

15 But if he makes them null and void after he has heard of them, then he shall bear her iniquity.”

I believe it is time to pay attention to evidence and facts of a case rather than the cooked-up emotions that come with some women’s words

-GSW-